I don’t think it matters how your relationship or marriage ends, the prospect of not spending time with your children every day is a hard pill to swallow for some. Whatever agreement you and your ex settle on, the fact is, your child will have to split their time between two homes.

As hard as it is to accept, there’s a bright side — this new dynamic doesn’t have to be difficult. I know, you’re asking how. The first step is to give yourself time to adjust. If you ex is pushing to make arrangements or if the courts have decided how your kids will split their time, there isn’t much time to adjust. You might have weeks or months, but the point is to use that time to come to terms with the new dynamic.

Know that whether your kids are with you or their dad, they’re safe. I know it’s hard, especially if you’re going through a stressful separation or divorce but it’s important that we, as parents, put our differences aside and do what’s best for our kids.

I’m right there with you and understand how you feel. As I go through the process myself, I’ve learned a few things along the way. Here are eight essentials to help you navigate through the early days of co-parenting. Continue reading